Five Tips for Mastering the Art of Getting Dressed

Five Tips for Mastering the Art of Getting Dressed

Recently I’ve been trying to refine my personal style while still nurturing the parts of me that want to be radical and unpredictable. As a result I have become the type that starts to plan my outfit as soon as I know I’m going somewhere important, even if it is months down the road. I never used to do that. It has been a process for sure and I am still a work in progress. I think half of it is being prepared and the other half is staying true to you. I have learned some important lessons during my journey that may help you, I’ll share them below.

Tip #1:  Plan ahead! Ideally you should never get caught having to be somewhere with no plan on what you’re going to wear. I know that’s not always possible so I started a Pinterest board where I layout my favorite outfits and photograph them. When it’s time to find an outfit I just look on that board to get inspiration or to just copy an outfit verbatim. It also helps me create new combinations, as opposed to always buying new things. I can see everything without actually having to physically take it out of my closet. That can be such a burden when you are in a rush not to mention a huge mess.

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Tip#2:  Find out where you are going and look at photos on Google, Yelp, or Pinterest to see if you can gain any insight from what other people wear to that particular place.

Tip#3:  Simply check the weather. Now I know that some occasions call for a certain dress or shoe no matter what the cost. No amount of frostbite or length of a cold thereafter can stop you. However, for the most part I like to dress according to the weather. Don’t you?

Tip#4:  Do a closet cleanse twice a year. Take a day to remove everything from your closet and drawers. Make logical choices about what you should keep and what you need to get rid of. If you’re not using something or it doesn’t give you joy it shouldn’t be taking up space in your wardrobe. (I recommend reading The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo, it taught me a lot.) Then try to organize your items as you put them back. This cuts down on confusion and clutter when you’re trying to pick an outfit.

Tip#5:  Stay in line with your natural character. Make sure that you are comfortable with your outfit choice. Try it on the night before including the shoes. Walk around the house in it, there’s nothing worse than getting out and wishing you had made a different choice in attire. If those heels are too high, dress too tight, or those pants are too big. Sell those shoes on Poshmark, donate that dress and take those pants to a tailor if you love them. You shine when you are comfortable in your clothes. Confidence goes a long way people!

I hope these tips help you along the way. In the meantime check out my Pinterest Boards by clicking the icon at the top of the page. The Outfit Inspiration and My Favorite Outfits boards should be of particular interest to you. It will show you how I lay out my combinations to use them as a reference when I get dressed. Also click on the Poshmark icon at the top of the page to check out my Poshmark closet, see the items I’ve decided to part with.

Next topic on my posting agenda will be about the trip I took to The Big Apple. So come back and visit my site pretty please with a cherry on top. Click the follow button on the screen and you will be updated every time I have something fun for you to read or look at.

Signing Out With Love,

Kapfanny

About A Book: Between the World and Me by Ta-Nehisi Coates

About A Book: Between the World and Me by Ta-Nehisi Coates

Wow what a powerful read…Between the World and Me written by Ta-Nehisi Coates

This is such an important piece of literature because it shines a personal light on the anxious terror that a parent feels when they must send their children out into a world that commonly and falsely labels them. This book is a letter from a father to his young son. In the letter he explains that despite his adoring sentiment for his son, the world will not receive him with such loving arms. He lays out how unfair odds will impede his development and the concerns he carries for what this means for his son’s future. On top of all the normal hard lessons every child must learn he will need to be made aware of what he was born into without any fault of his own; born into a nation with a long, ugly and unrelenting history of racism.  He discusses his own struggles growing up and like all parents his wish that his child could have better. It’s about a father’s hope that his son will overcome not just the typical obstacles in life but the biased obstacles that he will undoubtedly be faced with.

We’ve come some of the way with removing legal discrimination from our laws but we still have a long way to go if things are supposed to be equal, and I do believe they are supposed to be equal. Don’t you? Racial discrimination is in the DNA of American and so the death of legal discrimination made way for the sudden onset of veiled racism. Anyone who thinks racism is over or not as bad as it used to be in America is enabling. Whether consciously, those that would prefer to continue to keep minorities at a disadvantage for their own iniquitous benefit, or subconsciously, those that block the truth to avoid accepting that society has not changed in the way they like to imagine or portray it has. That would mean that this country is still pillaging, still enslaving, still abusing, only the rules have changed. Instead of the overt examples of racism in our past, it now lurks and hides and when it strikes its devastating. It makes me sad to wonder can we ever really be rid of discrimination and stereotypes against people of color. A shattering kind of sad because I think I know the answer to that, but I don’t want to say it out loud.

I do know that books like this make it impossible for racism to hide. This is a must read for all Americans because it’s our world that is creating circumstances like this, where racism still renders fear and depression for us and the generations to come. Reading about people’s stories gives us access to understanding. There is a special power in listening because it allows us to be the change, first in our own hearts, and second in the lives of the people we touch every day. We have got to come to terms with our nation’s unrelenting struggle with discrimination and the causes for it. We have got to undo and pay back and rectify and understand in order to heal, because continuing to avoid, distract and enable to keep from admitting the ugly truth will keep us locked in this labyrinth for eternity.

Stay woke.

Signing Out With Love,

kapfanny

Most Essential: Go to Piece of Clothing this Winter in Los Angeles

 

 

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It’s got to be my Levi’s Original Sherpa Trucker Jacket. When I moved to Los Angeles I had a plethora of pea coats and down jackets that severed me well during my days in Portland and Eugene, Oregon. Now the majority of them have been sentenced to life in a vacuum suction zip lock bag. You just don’t need them in Southern California and they take up so much space. This jacket is the perfect addition to my outwear collection. I will literally wear this jacket with anything and everything. However, my favorite thing to wear with it with is a white shirt and boyfriend jeans. It’s quickly become my Winter go to outfit, if you can call this Winter 🙂

xoxo

Kapfanny

Smoothie Love

Smoothie Love

I make the same two portion smoothie every other day, one to have immediately and the other to save for the next morning. I don’t measure anything and there’s nothing too fancy about it. I just throw everything into a slender jar and mix it up with my immersion blender. It’s so much easier than getting my giant blender out. If it seems too thick I thin it out with a splash of coconut water or almond milk. I do mix up the fruit from time to time depending on what is in my fridge but banana, strawberries and blueberries are staple fruits I usually have on hand. Avocado is a must, it really changes the texture of a smoothie. Whatever bag of greens I’ve got go in by the handfuls. Sometimes it ends up more green, sometimes more purple but I don’t worry about it, it’s all going down the hatch. Word of advice, don’t add the chia seed until you are ready to drink the smoothie because it tends to make the mixture clump together.  Other than that it’s pretty simple. I’m not too crazy about my diet but I do attempt to focus on eating whole foods and this smoothie makes me feel good. If I do end up eating something terrible later in the day then knowing I had this for breakfast makes me feel like somehow I’ve countered that naughty choice.

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Signing Out With Love,

Kapfanny

Outfit Honorable Mention

Outfit Honorable Mention

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Green Utility Jacket

Black Ribbed Wrap Top with Black Lace Bra Underneath

Wide Leg High Waist Tweed Trousers

Black Converse Shoes

The Occasion: Drinks and small bites at a sports bar

To see more of my outfit combinations click on my Pinterest icon and view the My Favorite Outfits Board.

Signing Out With Love, 

Kapfanny

 

 

 

Cabo San Lucas, Mexico

Cabo San Lucas, Mexico

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I’ve seen the sun rise and set so many times in Cabo San Lucas, Mexico and it never gets old. This is the one vacation I never sleep in on and I know just where I want to be at dusk. I can’t seem to justify missing one of the two most spectacular parts of each day.  Orange, purple and pink kaleidoscope dreams on my mind when I reflect on many trips to Cabo. Located at the tip of the Baja Peninsula and just a short two hour flight from Los Angeles, you get to experience the beautiful Sea of Cortez and the vast Pacific Ocean.

Soundtrack for this post:

  • Miguel Kaleidoscope Dream
  • Caradefuego Tranquilla
  • Selena Como La Flor

 

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We have always stayed at The Playa Grande Hotel and Resort, it has a private beach and lots of pools, a wonderful spa and the people are so nice. I also recommend Grand Solmar Hotel and Resort, both places are beautiful. One of the great things about Cabo and our hotel is that you can basically walk anywhere you want to go for the most part. So you don’t really need a rental car to get around. However, if you are feeling sluggish you can always take a reasonably priced taxi to get to most places. One tip I will offer is that if you have already set up your ride from the airport to the hotel you don’t really need to stop once you get your baggage and talk with the time share sellers, unless you want to. We have done some time share tours and it’s cool to see other resorts and get a free breakfast but if your time is precious and you are eager to get your vacation on then just say no thank you, try not to make eye contact and whatever you do don’t stop walking, they are persistent to say the least.

A typical day on vacation in Cabo for us starts with an early morning workout (if we are not too lazy) then back to the room in time to watch the sunrise on the beach. The first morning we are there we always go to Solomon’s Landing for breakfast. It’s a nice restaurant on the marina where you can dine outside and people watch. Gorgeous boats line the water and there are plenty of people offering all kinds of activities like glass bottom boats, whale watching depending on the season, sunset cruises and fishing trips. We have experienced a variety of the activities in Cabo and they are all fun. Decide what you like and do that.

 

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Now that we are professional Cabo vacationers our days are spent sunning, swimming and sometimes napping either on the beach or at the pools, lying around and ordering food and drinks with an iPhone and headphones or a juicy book in hand. I must say we’ve really mastered the art of lounging on these trips.

 

Late in the afternoon we play volleyball or watch a sports game until it’s time to pick a spot for dinner. My favorite restaurants in Cabo are Salvatore’s, Maria Corona, Desperados, Romeo & Juliet, Los Barilles and Baja Cantina. Mango Deck is a good time too especially for New Year’s Eve. There are plenty of restaurants to choose from. Word of advice if you are in Cabo during peak season then make a reservation for dinner, tables fill up fast. If you are in the mood to explore start with the marina. You can walk and shop, stop to eat and drink then keep on walking.

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From there you’ll find lots of pathways to the streets where you can dip in and out of stores and markets with all kinds of things to purchase that will remind you of this place when you return home T shirts, ceramics, jewelry and much more. I really like to see the Dia de Los Muertos dolls that are displayed throughout Casa Maria, Glen Zen Mar and Mi Casa. Most are handmade by artists who you can tell put a lot of time and effort into their work.

 

If your hotel has a spa anything like the one at Playa Grande do yourself a favor and make an appointment to get a massage. It was so peaceful; I thought I was in heaven. All I remember was white robes, steam, hot rocks, the subtle scent of oils and warm tea in the palm of my hands. All my stress melted away. We have taken a few deep sea fishing trips in Cabo. You meet your captain at the marina just before dawn, then you are whisked away in search of Tuna or Mahi Mahi or if you are really ambitious Marlin. It’s a whole day of being on a boat and if you are there December to April you may be lucky enough to have this trip to double as whale watching too. If you end up catching fish you can take it to most restaurants and request for them to prepare it any way you like.  We had our hotel grill our fresh Mahi Mahi, it was a lovely meal.

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If you are going to Cabo get ready for a good time. I wish you good weather and strong margaritas. Happy travels! Until next time I want to thank you for reading and invite you to come back and visit my site pretty please with a cherry on top. Leave a comment and click the follow button on the screen and you will be updated every time I have something fun for you to read or look at.

Signing Out With Love,

Kapfanny

 

Grown Folks PB&J: A Twist on a Classic

Grown Folks PB&J: A Twist on a Classic

Okay I know I said Cabo San Lucas, Mexico would be the next topic on my posting agenda, and it will be, but first I have to tell you about the weather. IT’S BEEN RAINING IN LOS ANGELES. I used to have rainy days all the time while I lived in Oregon and now it’s so rare, that it gets me all excited when the sky is dark and angry. Days like this have become special to me, it warms my heart and I just have to do something to commemorate it. Like make hot chocolate or put on rubber boots and take a walk while all the true Angelenos hide in their homes and wait for the sun to come out again. I like to drink hot tea, or read a book, but my new favorite thing to do is make this delicious sandwich.

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I used to just toast the bread on my peanut butter and jam sandwich and I thought I was really doing something fancy. Then one day I decided to grill the bread with butter in a pan almost like a grilled cheese, then I’d add the peanut butter and jam and I was so impressed with myself. So good, the bread is warm, golden and crunchy then you add the peanut butter and it melts; it’s magical. Lately I have been taking it a few steps further, by grilling the bread in a compound butter consisting of rosemary and thyme. Then I add fresh blueberries that are warmed in the microwave for thirty seconds to the jam side and I add chopped cashews over the peanut butter side. Sometimes while it’s still warming in the skillet I drizzle a little bit of honey over the top. It’s so yummy and comforting and I can’t get enough of this sandwich especially on a rainy day in LA.

Try it out for yourself, tell me what you think.

Signing Out With Love,

kapfanny