About A Book: This Is Where I Leave You by Jonathan Tropper

About A Book: This Is Where I Leave You by Jonathan Tropper

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I had a fun time reading This is Where I Leave You by Jonathan Tropper. This book is so entertaining in so many ways. You will go through every emotion while reading it. It follows Judd Foxman while he experiences a rather trying time in his life. As the saying goes, when it rains it pours. Judd must come to terms with some of the most difficult obstacles in life, a parent’s death and the demise of his marriage. The cherry on top, his family must suddenly come together to sit shiva for seven consecutive days in one house. Oh the drama that ensues will have you flowing amidst laughter and sadness to surprise and then to anger and back through in a loop of sentiments. The characters are easy to connect with and each of their stories touch and tangle together like all families to create a complicated and broken but loving and supportive chaos. A chaos that, unbeknownst to Judd, will carry him through to the other side of this wearisome time. This book was turned into film in 2014. However, you must read the book before you watch the movie, not because the movie is bad but because the book is always better, everybody knows that.

Signing Out with Love,

kapfanny

The Huntington Library & Gardens

The Huntington Library & Gardens

One of my favorite spots to spend the afternoon is at The Huntington Library and Gardens in San Marino, California. The best time to go is on a beautiful day in the month of April because everything is blooming and it’s warm but the heat isn’t unbearable. I have a few spots I love to sit and linger but it seems like every time I go I find something new to appreciate. I recommend doing a yearly pass to this garden or the garden of your choice, if you know you are going to go back it comes in handy and could end up saving you money in the long run.

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The rose garden is spectacular in the spring. You’ll find artist who picked their favorite spot and set up their stands to paint the landscape. The koi fish in the Japanese and Chinese gardens are very friendly. The herb garden smells delicious in the spring and summer and sometimes you’ll find the most interesting exhibits in the various buildings throughout the grounds.

There is a traditional tea room that I have yet to try out. You need a reservation, just go on opentable.com to reserve your spot. Also there is a dining area in the Chinese garden where they serve great dishes. Last time I got crispy cauliflower lightly tossed in an Asian sauce over steamed white rice. Near the entrance you’ll find a beautiful gift shop and a store with all necessary refreshments you might need.

You should definitely take the time to check out this garden. When you live in a big city you really need places like this to get you back to nature. Let me know in the comments what you think and if you frequent any other gardens you might like to share, I’d love to hear about them. Until next time.

Signing Out with Love,

kapfanny

Turmeric Love

Turmeric Love

Turmeric is quickly becoming one of my favorite ingredients to have in the kitchen. It is grown in the roots of a plant that comes from India. Turmeric has a multitude of benefits to offer, most notable are its anti-inflammatory properties and its being studied as an asset to help fight against several diseases. So far I use it most often in the following three ways, turmeric fried rice, turmeric infused tea and in a turmeric and chai almond latte.

TURMERIC FRIED RICE

-2 teaspoons of sesame oil

-Half finely chopped onion

-3 minced cloves of garlic

-2 heaping tablespoons of fresh graded turmeric root

-.5 cup chopped broccoli or frozen peas (or both if you like)

-1 cup shredded carrots

2-2.5 cups cooked white or brown rice

(I’ve also tried cauliflower rice, they are all great in this dish, Add shrimp or a pouched egg on top to make a meal of it.)

TURMERIC INFUSED TEA

For the tea I use a turmeric/ginger tea bag and I add a small square of fresh turmeric root to the cup while it steeps.

TURMERIC/CHIA LATTE

When I stop at a coffee shop eight times out of ten I end up coming out with an almond chia latte. However, I often find that most places make them too sweet so I add a half teaspoon to a teaspoon of the turmeric powder to the cup and stir; this helps to mellow out the sweetness of my almond chia lattes. It’s kind of like a play on golden milk along with the flavors of a chia latte. I have seen that some shops offer a turmeric latte, although I have never officially had one I’m sure they are delicious.

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Five Tips for Mastering the Art of Getting Dressed

Five Tips for Mastering the Art of Getting Dressed

Recently I’ve been trying to refine my personal style while still nurturing the parts of me that want to be radical and unpredictable. As a result I have become the type that starts to plan my outfit as soon as I know I’m going somewhere important, even if it is months down the road. I never used to do that. It has been a process for sure and I am still a work in progress. I think half of it is being prepared and the other half is staying true to you. I have learned some important lessons during my journey that may help you, I’ll share them below.

Tip #1:  Plan ahead! Ideally you should never get caught having to be somewhere with no plan on what you’re going to wear. I know that’s not always possible so I started a Pinterest board where I layout my favorite outfits and photograph them. When it’s time to find an outfit I just look on that board to get inspiration or to just copy an outfit verbatim. It also helps me create new combinations, as opposed to always buying new things. I can see everything without actually having to physically take it out of my closet. That can be such a burden when you are in a rush not to mention a huge mess.

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Tip#2:  Find out where you are going and look at photos on Google, Yelp, or Pinterest to see if you can gain any insight from what other people wear to that particular place.

Tip#3:  Simply check the weather. Now I know that some occasions call for a certain dress or shoe no matter what the cost. No amount of frostbite or length of a cold thereafter can stop you. However, for the most part I like to dress according to the weather. Don’t you?

Tip#4:  Do a closet cleanse twice a year. Take a day to remove everything from your closet and drawers. Make logical choices about what you should keep and what you need to get rid of. If you’re not using something or it doesn’t give you joy it shouldn’t be taking up space in your wardrobe. (I recommend reading The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo, it taught me a lot.) Then try to organize your items as you put them back. This cuts down on confusion and clutter when you’re trying to pick an outfit.

Tip#5:  Stay in line with your natural character. Make sure that you are comfortable with your outfit choice. Try it on the night before including the shoes. Walk around the house in it, there’s nothing worse than getting out and wishing you had made a different choice in attire. If those heels are too high, dress too tight, or those pants are too big. Sell those shoes on Poshmark, donate that dress and take those pants to a tailor if you love them. You shine when you are comfortable in your clothes. Confidence goes a long way people!

I hope these tips help you along the way. In the meantime check out my Pinterest Boards by clicking the icon at the top of the page. The Outfit Inspiration and My Favorite Outfits boards should be of particular interest to you. It will show you how I lay out my combinations to use them as a reference when I get dressed. Also click on the Poshmark icon at the top of the page to check out my Poshmark closet, see the items I’ve decided to part with.

Next topic on my posting agenda will be about the trip I took to The Big Apple. So come back and visit my site pretty please with a cherry on top. Click the follow button on the screen and you will be updated every time I have something fun for you to read or look at.

Signing Out With Love,

Kapfanny

About A Book: Between the World and Me by Ta-Nehisi Coates

About A Book: Between the World and Me by Ta-Nehisi Coates

Wow what a powerful read…Between the World and Me written by Ta-Nehisi Coates

This is such an important piece of literature because it shines a personal light on the anxious terror that a parent feels when they must send their children out into a world that commonly and falsely labels them. This book is a letter from a father to his young son. In the letter he explains that despite his adoring sentiment for his son, the world will not receive him with such loving arms. He lays out how unfair odds will impede his development and the concerns he carries for what this means for his son’s future. On top of all the normal hard lessons every child must learn he will need to be made aware of what he was born into without any fault of his own; born into a nation with a long, ugly and unrelenting history of racism.  He discusses his own struggles growing up and like all parents his wish that his child could have better. It’s about a father’s hope that his son will overcome not just the typical obstacles in life but the biased obstacles that he will undoubtedly be faced with.

We’ve come some of the way with removing legal discrimination from our laws but we still have a long way to go if things are supposed to be equal, and I do believe they are supposed to be equal. Don’t you? Racial discrimination is in the DNA of American and so the death of legal discrimination made way for the sudden onset of veiled racism. Anyone who thinks racism is over or not as bad as it used to be in America is enabling. Whether consciously, those that would prefer to continue to keep minorities at a disadvantage for their own iniquitous benefit, or subconsciously, those that block the truth to avoid accepting that society has not changed in the way they like to imagine or portray it has. That would mean that this country is still pillaging, still enslaving, still abusing, only the rules have changed. Instead of the overt examples of racism in our past, it now lurks and hides and when it strikes its devastating. It makes me sad to wonder can we ever really be rid of discrimination and stereotypes against people of color. A shattering kind of sad because I think I know the answer to that, but I don’t want to say it out loud.

I do know that books like this make it impossible for racism to hide. This is a must read for all Americans because it’s our world that is creating circumstances like this, where racism still renders fear and depression for us and the generations to come. Reading about people’s stories gives us access to understanding. There is a special power in listening because it allows us to be the change, first in our own hearts, and second in the lives of the people we touch every day. We have got to come to terms with our nation’s unrelenting struggle with discrimination and the causes for it. We have got to undo and pay back and rectify and understand in order to heal, because continuing to avoid, distract and enable to keep from admitting the ugly truth will keep us locked in this labyrinth for eternity.

Stay woke.

Signing Out With Love,

kapfanny

Most Essential: Go to Piece of Clothing this Winter in Los Angeles

 

 

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It’s got to be my Levi’s Original Sherpa Trucker Jacket. When I moved to Los Angeles I had a plethora of pea coats and down jackets that severed me well during my days in Portland and Eugene, Oregon. Now the majority of them have been sentenced to life in a vacuum suction zip lock bag. You just don’t need them in Southern California and they take up so much space. This jacket is the perfect addition to my outwear collection. I will literally wear this jacket with anything and everything. However, my favorite thing to wear with it with is a white shirt and boyfriend jeans. It’s quickly become my Winter go to outfit, if you can call this Winter 🙂

xoxo

Kapfanny